When I visited the Self-Realization Fellowship (SRF) temple and gardens in Cardiff by the Sea, CA, I appreciated the fence—boundary—installed between the gardens and the cliff.
Due to erosion, it’s imperative to keep visitors from stepping too far forward, which many people want to do because of the stunning photo opportunity.
When it comes to human beings, there are many types of boundaries: personal, professional, relational, social, ethical, etc.
Boundaries are internal and external lines that we draw. They delineate where our — physical, mental, emotional, spiritual — space ends, and where another’s may begin. Boundaries establish what’s okay and what’s not okay. They help us:
- Stand up for ourselves
- Keep us from doing things we shouldn’t
- Protect and take care of ourselves
Boundaries are not separation, they’re not division. Boundaries are respect for ourselves and others.
As I tell my clients, establishing boundaries is one thing, but it’s not enough. To be effective, they must also be maintained.
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Are your boundaries in good condition—are they effective?